First Person Fabulous: Azalea Trail Maid Kaylyn Mallory

Azalea Trail Maids, a court of 50 Mobile County high school seniors, are the city’s official ambassadors.  Dressed in pastel period costumes customized to the individual Maid’s preferences and Trail standards, they welcome visitors at official events and reflect genteel Southern hospitality.  Kaylyn Mallory, 17, is a senior at Murphy High School and current member of the court who plans to study international business after graduation.  She is the daughter of Earl and Relya Mallory, and spoke with SCDD about her experience as an Azalea Trail Maid as well as her personal style.

Full circle:  When I was really young, my brother had his graduation, and when we went I saw the Trail Maids there and I thought they were so beautiful.  A few years later I got to meet them and I thought they looked like princesses.  From that point on I just knew I wanted to be an Azalea Trail Maid too.  [Now that I’m on the court] I love to see little girls smile and whisper to their moms “I want to be one of those” [when they see us at appearances]. 

Beyond moonlight and magnolias (er, azaleas):  When I found out all the things [the Azalea Trail Maids] do around the community and to represent Mobile, I was amazed.  There are so many things in Mobile that I didn’t know about until Trail, like all the things you can do for community service and [on behalf of] nonprofit organizations.  I really enjoy seeing people seeing us and being happy that we’re there to represent them.  [The current court has also appeared in Washington, D.C.’s Fourth of July parade as well as the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade.] 

No controversy here:  Personally, I haven’t experienced any sort of negativity or backlash [from people thinking] we represent slave times, or any animosity related to that.   But I want to say that we don’t represent slavery; we represent Southern hospitality.  Actually, Distinguished Young Women [formerly America’s Junior Miss] stems from Trail because people thought it was such a good idea to showcase young women, so they broadened it so more young women could participate. 

About that costumeI think a lot of people are surprised how much the dress weighs and how many layers it has.  I haven’t weighed mine but [I’d guess it] weighs between 40-50 pounds.  It has 5 or 6 layers and about 8 different parts.  It’s a little odd when people realize we have to put on the hoop, then the skirt and then the apron, and so on.  At [a welcome event for the new court], you get to look at all the current courts dresses and you get an idea of what you want yours to look like.  I found one that was worn by the queen from the previous year, and I tweaked it to make it more personal for me.  The scalloping on the skirt and the roses are lovely.  I have roses pretty much all over my dress and on my parasol and my hat.  I like the elegance of it. 

How long does it take to put on the entire ensemble? (Laughs) In the beginning, it might have taken (my mother and me) 30 minutes.  But with time and practice you master it more, and I think I can do it in 20-25 minutes by myself.

The Court’s legacy:  I’ve gained public relations skills  because you really learn how to interact with people.  I’m much better at communicating now, and Trail has been a really big part of that.  Also, I learned a lot about teamwork and time management from coordinating things with my group.

Kaylyn’s personal style and her parents’ influence:  It’s kind of laidback and carefree. I don’t go along with a lot of fads.  I do like flowy, girly kinds of clothes.  I love the frills and the lace.  I guess that goes along with why I like being a Trail Maid.  I love my jeans too though.  My parents have taught me how to respect myself in what I wear:  [to not choose] clothes that are too revealing.  My mom tells me everything is prettier with pearls, and that makeup should only enhance your natural beauty.  It shouldn’t be heavily depended on.   

Kaylyn is already ready for prom this spring, having purchased her dress over the Christmas break. 

“I  kind of have wished I could wear my Trail dress to prom; it’s custom made and it’s perfect for me,” she laughed.  (But no, she isn’t wearing her Trail Maid costume.)

Want to know more about the Azalea Trail Maids?  Click here.

Images courtesy of Relya Mallory

This is, quite simply, perfection…

This song – sung by the incomparable Sarah Vaughn – is one my grandmother used to sing to me, and it has always reminded me to dream BIG, but to remember that realizing our dreams is often easier than we  imagine.  Sometimes our “castles in the air” are really right under our noses the whole time, waiting for us to step out on faith and grab them.  Sometimes we go around the world in search of something we’ve had all along; launching Same Chic Different Day has brought that home for me. 

As I celebrate SCDD’s 100th post today (!), I want to thank you for reading, for inspiring me and supporting my dream…you all are absolutely fabulous!  It’s been a whirlwind three months, and as SCDD grows I hope it continues to brighten your days with something a little different, a little lagniappe – and a little something chic.

XOXO Alexis

Don’t forget to enter SCDD’s chic giveaway! Comment on 12/21’s post and you could win a copy of Commander in Chic!

(Because) You’re Worth It.

Lately I can’t get those old school L’Oreal ads out of my mind, the ones featuring coiffed and glamorous models or celebs cooing “I’m worth it” just before the final shot (who always looked like they didn’t have a day job, side hustle, or household to manage, much less a care in the world).  Years after those ads hit the airwaves their message continues to resonate, because I think  women sometimes (often?) forget they are worth it.  And I don’t mean in a high maintenance, “I need diamonds and caviar” way.  We deserve to take care of ourselves.  We deserve excellent mental and physical health, which means taking the time to eat well, exercise regularly and rejuvenate through relaxation (Hello, girls night! Or bubble bath, good book and comfy pjs night. Etc.).  We deserve to present our best selves with makeup, hair and clothing that expresses our personality and style at its loveliest, even if we have to do it on a budget.  We also deserve a little bit of luxury and pampering!  We deserve healthy, loving relationships, which begins with loving and affirming ourselves and choosing others who support and affirm us to be in our circle (now’s the time to cut out anyone who doesn’t fit the bill, Facebook “friends” and real-life frenemies included).   And we owe it to ourselves to be fiscally smart and prepared for the future, whatever it holds (so girl get your money straight, or go back and get that degree!).  

Doing these things doesn’t mean you’re selfish; it means you are self-full.  Remember ladies: we can’t run the world if we’re run down, dragging and not looking or feeling our best. If my grandmothers could run their homes, take care of their husbands and more than 10 kids each and still be fierce in the same amount of time we have to work with…I don’t have a choice! (And you don’t, either!)

Knowing your worth? Now that’s chic!

XOXO Alexis

She’s the Boss: Tia Chestang-Beville

Tia Chestang-Beville

At SCDD, we believe true beauty starts within, and following your dreams is always in style!  So talking with Tia-Chestang-Beville (owner of Purify Wellness & Spa )was a no-brainer.  Nestled off Highway 280, the spa offers a pampering environment to escape the daily grind.  It also represents owner-operator Chestang-Beville’s desire to fulfill a personal dream of pursuing entrepreneurship and promoting a holistic approach to health and wellness.  Purify Wellness & Spa invites its clients to relax, refresh and rejuvenate with services that include beauty, massage and detoxification treatments.

Her inspiration: What really inspired me to start my own business was I noticed that so many African-Americans have a hard time finding a job, or even an opportunity. I wanted to be my own boss and call my own shots.

Wake-up call: Before I [became an entrepreneur] I worked in the banking industry.  One day I woke up and realized this was not what I had come to Birmingham for.  I turned in my two week’s notice and started a physical therapy program [within several months].  While working as a physical therapist I realized many of my patients had issues with [digestive complaints].  And I had learned personally the benefits of proper nutrition.  Purify was born of that.

Would she ever return to banking? Never, ever!  If push came to shove, I’d [return] to physical therapy. It’s just as rewarding.  But I’d work as an [independent contractor].  I’ll never go back to being fully employed by someone else.  It’s not all glitz and glamour, but I’ve gotten a taste of the American dream and I’ll never go back.

SCDD took a guided tour of the spa during the interview and learned about the colon hydrotherapy services Purify administers.  Purify Wellness & Spa currently uses the “open,” or Libby System exclusively, in which the client controls the session.

Ms. Chestang-Beville was careful to make the distinction that the spa services clients, not patients, as she is practicing under a certification and not a license. “I am at the beginning stages of colon hydrotherapy (CHT),” she notes.  “I’ve completed pre-requisites in gross anatomy, physiology, plus 100 hours and 50 sessions in colon hydrotherapy.  I’ll go to Atlanta to move to the intermediate level and received training on the closed system.  The closed system is a little more invasive and requires a therapist to be present at all times.”

The Libby System tables are scrupulously clean, and the room itself is soothing. We observed as Ms. Chestang-Beville personally sterilized and prepared the session room for her next client and found out there is even an automatic “kill switch” which allows the client to control the apparatus’ valves to his or her comfort. 

“Everything is sterile and disposable,” Ms. Chestang-Beville says.  “Nothing is recycled.  All supplies are carefully laid out each time for each client.”

What has been the most surprising part of the process for her?

“Initially I had tons of support from friends and family encouraging me to follow my dreams and go forward, ” she says.  “The most surprising part is I never thought I could actually do it, and manage it the way I’ve been able to. [Ms. Chestang-Beville talked to us while running the front desk,  interacting with a steady stream of clients, and scheduling sessions.  She even planned her recent wedding while running the business.]  The [Highway 280] area loves us and has been very welcoming. The support has been great.”

Purify is now offering  a spa membership program and Chestang-Beville has plans to further expand her services.  Ready to check out Purify Wellness & Spa for yourself?  December is a great time to relax, relate and release, as they are offering a 12 Days of Christmas special as well as promotions via Facebook!

Image courtesy of Tia Chestang-Beville

First Person Fabulous: Southern University Dancing Doll Meagan Callier

Meagan A. Callier

The Iron Bowl isn’t the only grudge match this weekend.  On Saturday, the Southern University Jaguars will face off against the Grambling University Tigers in the granddaddy of all classics,” the 38th Annual State Farm Bayou Classic in New Orleans.  SCDD spoke with Dancing Doll Meagan Callier as she prepared for her final Bayou Classic performance with the Southern University Human Jukebox.  This is one busy young lady: she spoke to us on her last day of classes, between step show and dance line practice!  Miss Callier, 21, is a Mobile native and is the daughter of Karen and Mark Hansberry and Francis Callier.  The Mass Communications major  and new Delta plans to attend both graduate and law school after graduation.

Balance is key:  I work really hard at each individual thing.  I never stop.  And I pray a lot for strength and I just keep going. But I love it: I love school, I love dance and I love my sorority so it’s not a problem to put forth that effort.

Advice to her younger self?  I was so stuck on coming to college and being independent that I hurt myself [when it came to] picking a class or a major.  I would tell myself that it’s okay to ask [my parents and advisors] questions, that I don’t know everything.

Personal style: I would say [my style is] funky. Not weird, but I don’t really follow trends.   I wear what I feel, or what I think looks good.   I’ve definitely seen the stores I’ve shop in change since I started college.  Forever 21 was my favorite.  But I [shop more] in boutiques now. Instead of picking up a club dress I pick up a button down because I’ll get more use out of it.  I like how the rest of the world looks at a Black female dressed in business casual.  (Meagan named a “sultry but classy” BCBG dress and a particular wedge boot at Bakers as two items she has her eye on.)

She Gets it from her Mama: [My mother taught me] that less is more. You don’t have to wear red shoes, a red hat, and a red shirt.  And you don’t have to be naked to look womanly or sexy.  My mom has a really feminine, classy sense of style.

So Over It: [For women] I wish that the shaved head trend – where you shave your head and dye it – would go away. I hate it…it’s going around on my campus.  The long feather earring trend, hate it.  For men? Sagging pants.

Behind the scenes: It’s a lot of hard work.  People really don’t understand the time and dedication that we put into the dances, the makeup, the hair.  We get our costumes together.  We don’t have a sponsor.  We practice every day from four until.  It’s really like a job. But the finished product is what we love and we like for people to think that it’s effortless.  [People would be surprised to know] we get really nervous before we perform.  Every girl has those jitters.  People think we’ve been doing it so long and we’re technically trained [so it’s easy], but the nerves before performance are ridiculous.  We pray before every performance – can’t perform without it- [or] the nerves will get the best of us.

What she’s going to miss most about the Dancing Dolls:  The friendships.  The laughs we share.  [No matter what type of day I’ve had] I can come to practice and I’m guaranteed a laugh.  Someone will uplift my spirits.  We laugh so much; we’re really a close squad.  My captain Kayla Smith, I love her to death.  I’ve never  had a sister but [we are that close].  I’m really going to miss her. 

Going out with a bang at the 2011 Bayou Classic:  I am anxious and nervous and sad all in one because I know it’s the end.  I’m going to miss my squad; I love them like my sisters [and] it’s going to be hard to let go.  But I’m ready.  I’ve danced all my life and I’m ready to discover a new world outside of dance.  I’m excited.  Looking back on it, I’m pleased with the decision I made to come to Southern.  I left my family and my friends and I’m on my own; coming here developed me as a young woman.  It went by too fast!

Images courtesy of Meagan A. Callier

First Person Fabulous: Ryan Christopher

Same Chic Different Day recently chatted with Birmingham fashion stylist Ryan Christopher, 27.  Mr. Christopher, a Miles College grad, works under the direction of celebrity stylist Shun Melson and has styled the Real Houseweives of Atlanta and Basketball Wives‘  star Jennifer Williams.  He also recently styled LisaRaye McCoy during the 2011 State Farm Magic City Classic and was the official I Am The Classic celebrity stylist.

When did you first become interested in fashion?  I’d have to say in high school.  I was such a Banana Republic person back then. That’s when I bought my first Louis Vuitton wallet.  And that’s when I thought I wanted to do something in fashion, but I didn’t know exactly what.  And I was always helping my friends find things.

His major influences:  When it comes to my personal style, I don’t look to a lot of influences. I dress according to how I feel.   I’ve admired and been inspired by many people, but I’m not an imitator.  From admiration you get inspiration to do your thing.  If I feel urban, I do urban;  if I feel something else, I do something else. 

The item he can’t live without?  My sunglasses; those are like my children, literally. I left a pair in Atlanta [once] and when I realized it I had a panic attack.  They knew to Fed Ex them to me overnight. 

It starts at home:  My mother taught me how to be well put together.  She was very well kept and very well put together, and that’s key to styling.  You don’t want a client to look sloppy.   And I have a great aunt that I think I got a fashion gene from.  She was over my grandmother’s house wearing a full mink and  some high heels and she’s like 80;  I was like ‘I see where I get it from.’

Tips for aspiring stylists:  The best thing I can say is intern as much as you can, research, and sharpen your eye.   And find a stylist you can assist [and from whom you can] learn the business.  When you’re interning, you have to look at it as [an opportunity] to learn everything you can from the person.  Learn how to listen with your eyes and not your ears.

Cheap chic:  When you’re looking at your budget and want to expand, there are several things you can do.  [Browse in] the Z Outlet; they sell very fashion-forward earrings, etc.  The trick is, it’s cheap, so you have to know what to pick up and what to leave in the store. There’s nothing wrong with budget shopping at stores like Forever 21 and Know Style.   Shoe Show and Shoe Time imitate every designer you can think of;  shop those places for that same look without the designer price.  But you have to know what you can make work.  If you don’t have the budget, go into your own closet and try to revamp what you’ve had, something you wore years ago.  Get new shoes and make it look fresh.  I do it all the time. 

In our conversation at Fashiontini Mr. Christopher stated that people in Birmingham play it safe when it comes to style.  His advice on how to take one’s style up a notch (or several):  Step out of the box.  Play with color throughout the season.  One thing I like to see [is people]wearing boots in the spring.   Who says you can only wear boots in the winter?  Do an edgier shoe or an edgier color.  Little things like that can push a look over the edge. Try unexpected colors together:  two colors you never thought would look right together.  Try to make it more interesting and more fun –  not so serious. [It’s as though people say to themselves] ‘OMG everything has to match to a tee’ – NO.  Try that crazy looking bootie, or that bootie with a skirt. 

Casket sharp:  I don’t plan on dying anytime soon, but I would like to be buried in a basic Dolce and Gabbana suit with shades.  Just a basic nice tailored fit: very clean, very crisp, very simple.

And what would you not be caught dead wearing?  Oh, God. What would I not be caught dead wearing?  A fat knotted tie!  I don’t know if that’s a trend in the South, but you’ll never see me wear that.  God, it’s hideous.   I hate those with a passion. 

Well, there you have it.  For more on Mr. Christopher, check out this recent profile on urbanham.com or his personal blog.  For booking or public relations information, please contact Ms. Toni Rousell at (205) 523-4PUB or trou35@gmail.com.

Image courtesy of Ryan Christopher

First Person Fabulous: Jarvis Escott

Jarvis Escott, 31, might possibly be one of the hardest working men in Birmingham.  Not only is he President of First Impressions Marketing Group, he’s the cofounder of blacksouthbusiness.com with partner Chaundra Davis.  SCDD caught up with him in the midst of planning a swirl of events surrounding this year’s Magic City Classic.  Read on for the his take on style, personal branding and entrepreneurship in Birmingham.

His worst fashion moment? (Laughs)  It’d have to be the other day: I was meeting someone and I spilled Coca Cola all over myself.  Or one time I had a big meeting and I was rushing so much that I left my belt.  I [had to] keep it moving without it.

What his father taught him about style: [He taught me that] what you wear represents you.   And you are also representing others.  So with me, what I wear represents my family, my home training, and my business…I started a company named First Impressions and I believe in making good first impressions.  [Also] whatever you wear, it’s not what you wear, it’s how you wear it.  Some guys wear suits and [you can tell] they are uncomfortable in them.  Other guys wear them and they walk like [they’re] the CEO, even if they may be the parking lot attendants.

If we peeked into your briefcase, what would we see?  First of all, you’d see my blackberry.  A receipt book.  And a notepad.

What he won’t be caught dead in:  Tight pants.  And pink shirts.  I don’t think I have the confidence to pull that off.  But I could do a pink tie.

On what influenced his career choice:  I think what interested me as far as marketing was when I was a student recruiter at UAB, “selling the university” [to prospective students] and also working as an orientation leader.  Business-wise I would say three people served as mentors and gave me a lot of hands on information:  Sam South, Tanita Cain, and Antonio Minnifield, who used to own Amani Raha.

Why he remains based in Birmingham:  Don’t get me wrong, there are temptations to go elsewhere.  I stay here because I grew up here and I really have learned and grasped the market here.  I’ve learned how to adapt to this market.  [Birmingham is a great place for young professionals] because it’s rebuilding itself after years of being under the old guard of leadership, of people not being able to get along.

His tips for aspiring moguls?  Number one:  believe in yourself when no one else believes in you,  and number two:  establish a good support network of colleagues and other business owners. When you’re around like-minded people, you’ll [find support].  In terms of promoting events, people make it look easy but it’s not.  The first thing I always tell people is ask yourself if this is something you’d go to.  Second, you need to check the calendar and see if it’s the right time to do it. Next you have to see if it’s the right location.  And of course, the key word is price.  [One of the biggest misconceptions about promoters] is that we’re rich.  Some people get into it for fame, money, and on the guys’ side, to improve their dating life.  People think it’s quick money, but there’s a science to it and you have to have the right formula to do it successfully.

How to strengthen your personal brand?  Pick three people you personally admire.  Study them and learn from the mistakes they’ve made.  For me, I think of Oprah, Diddy, and Kim Kardashian – really the whole Kardashian family – people who put their names on things and it POPS.

Any exciting developments on the horizon? I ‘m really excited about the growth of the new website, blacksouthbusiness.com.  I’m also excited about the new direction I’m going in with First Impressions with doing more entertainment and artist-driven marketing.

 Image courtesy of D Jerome Smedley/TruKnightVision Photography

First Person Fabulous: Lynsey Weatherspoon

Lynsey Weatherspoon

Lynsey Weatherspoon, 27, is a freelance photographer and professor of public speaking at the University of Montevallo and Jefferson State Community College.  She recently chatted with SCDD about her unique sense of style, her photography work and the joys of living downtown.  Lynsey plans to spend her thirtieth birthday in Paris, which she feels is  “the best place for an artist to live or visit once in [his or her] life.”  Check out her website at lynseyweatherspoon.com.

On her inspiration and working style:  My mom inspired me [to become a photographer]. She was my first photography teacher. I learned on a Minolta Film Camera.  I took one class at the University of Montevallo and went from there.  [When taking photos] I try to let the client get a feel for my personality first, and I try not to pose unless it’s needed.  There’s always a sense of art direction.

The biggest misconception about photographers?  I think most people believe that photography (or starting a photography business) is easy.   In my opinion it’s not.  It’s easy to buy a camera but it’s not easy to acquire skill.

Her personal style? I wear makeup when it’s necessary, but I don’t want anything to clog my skin so I don’t wear it every day.  I try to step out of my box every once in a while.  I do try to keep up with the latest trends but at the same I know everything is not for me.  I’m a jeans and tee shirt kind of person.  Jeans, tee shirts, oxfords and Chuck Taylors. Comfortable chic.  My mood [influences my look].  My go-to outfit is this suit I found at the Ann Taylor outlet in South Carolina.  Outlet shopping is, like the best thing ever.  Not only for clothes, but for shoes.

People would be surprised to know: That I own more than one pair of heels.   I wear them when necessary.

On being a naturalista:  I transitioned in 2009. I wanted to try something new, so I thought I’d start locs.  It was the best decision I could’ve made.  I just knew that I was doing the same thing, the same way every day with my hair. I don’t think my hair showed my true personality.  So I started transitioning in January 2009.  [I did the] big chop in July 2009 [and] started locing on October 2009. For me the whole reason I started [the process] was to learn patience. I knew there would be points where I either loved my hair or hated it but I wouldn’t call transitioning a challenge. I became a better person as far as [having more] patience. 

Tell us about a new beauty technique you recently tried:  [Do you mean] the painful beauty technique I just tried? I went to have my eyebrows threaded for the first time.  Though they look awesome, I wouldn’t suggest that the weak of heart to try it. As single tear dropped out of each eye [during the procedure].   I hope it lasts all the way to Classic weekend, because I’m not going back (laughs).  If it doesn’t then hey, at least I can say I tried it.  For $10, [it was worth trying once].

Trends Lynsey wishes would go away? For men:   Snap back hats.  They’re not fitted; they’re the old school snap backs.  They died for a reason. [And] wing tip loafers. Please make them die.  For women: Graphic tees with inappropriate slogans and sayings.

On living downtown:  Living downtown is the second best thing I could have done.  There’s  a vibe to downtown Birmingham.  You have to live here to understand.  Especially in my building, where we’re all artists.  Though I’ve been here 27 years, I finally feel like  Birmingham is home. Being in the mix of everything is a great feeling.

What’s Birmingham’s best kept secret?  Have you ever been to Reed Books on Third Avenue? That’s Birmingham’s best kept secret.  The owner is Jim Reed. It’s the holy grail of books.  You’ll find something new every time you walk in that place.

Any exciting plans in your future? I plan on going back to school next year to work on a PhD in Visual Communication and possibly going out of the country for my photography work.

Parting words of wisdom? Live out your dreams.  There’s no point in saying “I wish I would have,”  just go ahead and do it.

Image courtesy of Lindsey Griffin Photography

First Person Fabulous: Jeremy Norman

Jeremy Norman, 30, is a successful associate broker with Keller Williams and has worked in real estate for 8 1/2 years.   Having previously worked at Macy’s in menswear and ladies’ shoes and with a crisp sense of the sartorial, he has some definite opinions on style.  He studied Finance at Jacksonville State University and is the father of  Jordan, age 6. 

People would be surprised to know: [Laughs] I’m very adventurous.  I’m going skydiving next month.  I love outdoor activities.  I was in Boy Scouts.  I can do a lot because of Boy Scout training; I was in it all the way up until 9th grade.

Why he got into real estate: Wow!  Good question. When I was in college, I took [a real estate class] as an elective.  I gained a passion for it because my cousin’s husband owned a real estate company (Johnson Realty Company) in Birmingham. He was a big part of the community and I learned from his example. When I took the class at Jacksonville it hit me that this was a career I could love and be successful in.

On dressing for success and taking risks with style:   I think a lot of people are scared to take risks with color. I don’t mind wearing pink or baby blue. I’m into colors.  A lot of people wear dark colors to be safe, but I like to take risks.   I really love a suit, with some nicely shined shoes.  Shoes are very important in business.  A person can look at your shoes and tell what level you’re on, business-wise.  Suits say I’m professional and bring a sense of confidence and power. [They let a client] know you will represent them well.  Macy’s has a brand called Tasso Elba that I like.  I feel comfortable [in a suit, tie and nice shoes], like I can take on the world.

His grooming essentials:  I go to the barbershop once a week.  That’s my thing.  I go to Capelli; Spencer Chestnut is my barber.  I think being in the arena I’m in, always networking, I have to have a nicely groomed haircut.  Your appearance says a lot when you’re in sales. Clients feel like if you’re taking care of yourself, you’ll take care of them too.

Fashion trends he wishes would die?  For men – Cardigans.  There was a huge push at Macy’s and Belk and that’s all you saw. I think we’re coming to a point where another style will come in, like v-necks with a shirt and tie underneath.  For women – Those blue jean leggings!  They’re really tights.  I really wish tights would shift on out the door. People are overdoing them.  They’re okay around the house.  But if we’re going out on a date, put some real jeans on!

Would you be caught wearing jeggings, a la Lil Wayne?  Lil Wayne [is] in the rock and roll arena.  It wouldn’t look right for me to have some skinny jeans on.  No big dude should have skinny jeans on. I don’t like anything fitted to me that tight. I don’t like the trend, but I’m not going to knock the next person who does.  That’s just not my personal style.

Wish list item? A custom, made-to-measure Armani suit.

Jeremy Norman

What he’s teaching his son about fashion:  We just had a conversation this morning about this.  I’m teaching him that you always want to look presentable. You never know when you will run into an opportunity. My mother taught me to always make sure my clothes were ironed and that I looked presentable when I left the house.  So I am teaching him to make sure his clothes are ironed and his shirt is tucked in, to always be prepared when he leaves the house in case his teacher pulls him on the stage or up for a presentation.  If you asked him he’d say “Daddy says ‘Always be prepared.’ ”

What he learned while moonlighting at Macy’s:  I worked in Macy’s women’s shoe department up until my real estate took off, nights and part-time.  I was selling houses during the day time and selling shoes at night.  Women are very particular about their shoes.  Sometimes women would buy the shoes first,  then buy the outfit and match them up. That’s the number one thing I learned, that if it was a BAD shoe…women would find something to put together with it.

Parting thoughts?  Always dress to succeed. But don’t let the clothes make you.  A lot of people get caught up in name brands, “I have Gucci, or I have Donna Karan, ” and so on. When I worked in men’s suits at Macy’s, I saw a lot of high quality suits, but I learned an Alfani suit could be dressed up to run neck and neck with Calvin Klein.  Confidence makes the clothes; it’s the person in them [that matters].  If you have your confidence level up, no one can tell you you don’t look good. The suit could be from K&G or Saks. That suit from K&G could [outshine] the one from Saks because of the confidence of the person wearing it.

Images courtesy of Jeremy Norman

First Person Fabulous: Jessica Coates

Jessica Coates

Birmingham wife (to L.J. Coates) and mother (to Nadia, age 7 and Zion, age 5) Jessica Coates works as a Human Resources Coordinator at Startley General Contractors and promotes personal fitness as a Zumba instructor, all while looking fabulous. 

On her personal style and beauty essentials: I like conservative, feminine clothes that last.  I’m not into trends. And I can’t live without Dove soap and my mascara.

Her worst fashion moment:  I don’t know what possessed me to wear a ponytail on the top of my head fanned out [during junior high]. I would roll my ponytail every night, and the next morning take the [pink sponge rollers] out. I might have a side bang or a swooped bang and I was on! It was dreadful. 

Do’s and Dont’s? If you’re [not feeling confident], DO have an arched brow, clean, manicured nails and a nice gloss. There’s something about being polished that can help how you feel about your outfit.

DON’T settle for any trend or outfit that you aren’t comfortable with. I don’t care who comes out with what, the Kardashians or Beyonce. If Jessica’s not comfortable, Jessica’s not wearing it.

On her advocacy work:  I became a Court-Appointed Special Advocate for Jefferson County in 2004.  We’re the eyes and ears of family court; we interview everyone in any type of child abuse or neglect case and attend hearings. It’s strictly voluntary; we’re only concerned with the best interests of the child. It’s been an eye-opening experience.  We definitely need more people giving kids a voice.

[As the mother of] a special needs child I dove head-first into researching all I could [about her son’s condition]. We are lacking a lot of resources here. I [work] with Children’s Rehab Services [and] I sit on the board of Mission Hugs, which raises money to send special needs kids to the two facilities [which provide care to special needs children] until they can start school.

Zion’s disease [Infantile Neuroaxanal Dystrophy] is so rare – there are only 12 known cases – that I have to stay on top of the research.  A lot of parents don’t have the tools and the resources, don’t get second opinions and don’t fight for things just because they are told ‘No’ the first time.

What motivates her? If I am not well, I will not be able to work, be able be a good mom or wife. It’s important that I look good, feel good and am good overall.

I’m motivated to keep on doing what I have to do because there are innocent little people in my life that I’m responsible for. On my worst day, my son – who cannot talk or walk- will laugh and it [reminds me] that I have so much to live for. That he still has a smile on his face motivates me to take it one day at a time. 

What IS Zumba?  Zumba is a Latin-inspired aerobics program which started in Miami about ten years ago. It works the full body and is a core cardio program.

 On how she got involved:  My [YMCA] boot camp teacher asked “Have you ever thought about teaching anything at the gym?” She really opened my mind to think about doing it. Out of all the programs I went to, I was happiest at Zumba. It captured my attention because it was new and different. I love doing do it; I’m passionate about it. Once I started teaching at the Y downtown, I knew it was something I should have been doing all along.

 The most surprising thing she’s learned: No matter the age, the gender, the sex, the race, everybody is consumed with their outer body. From men, to little elderly ladies to college girls with perfect bodies…we all share that.

SCDD recently caught one of Jessica’s high energy Zumba classes at the downtown YWCA, where the focus was about having fun and breaking a sweat at one’s own pace.  The participants had so much fun, they forgot they were actually exercising!   Jessica is currently teaching Zumba every Thursday at 6 PM at the Veranda Building/Park Place Apartments.  Want to ditch the work out and join the party? For more information, click here.

Images courtesy of Jessica Coates

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