Single readers: don’t you just love those well-meaning (okay, nosy) people who love to come up and ask “WHEN are YOU going to get married?” As if there aren’t a million plus other ways to spend your life and time productively? Nothing against marriage (ahem, I’m all about marriages and weddings) but the firing squad questioning gets old. However, if you’re interested in reflecting personally on why you aren’t married, Tracy McMillan’s latest book (which grew out of her wildly popular Huffington Post piece about the same topic) may help.

In Why You’re Not Married…Yet: The Straight Talk You Need to Get the Relationship You Deserve, the thrice-divorced McMillan shares the wisdom she’s gained through her own life experiences, and in an often-funny, totally no-nonsense way helps the hapless and hopeless narrow down and address their personal issues. Whether you are hoping to find Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now, the ten chapters in this book aim to help you face the ways you may be sabotaging healthy relationships with suggested solutions for how to change. She also shares her observations on male behavior, and in a big sisterly way, shares the information people around you wish you knew about your own antics. (Like maybe you’re selfish, co-dependent, or you need to address your inner Amy Winehouse.)

As McMillan noted in her HuffPost piece, “I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You’re just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won’t. Once the initial high wears off, you’ll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.” So don’t expect this book to hand you a magic coupon and MapQuest directions for the perfect husband. But it may give you the tools to be a better person, which may lead to being a better mate.

You can also catch McMillan on the upcoming NBC reality show Ready for Love, in which she will play matchmaker for three bachelors in search of their true loves.

You’re welcome, Alexis

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